Author Stephanie Kallos defines a relationship as “a marvel of construction, built up over time and out of fragments of shared experience. . . . Maybe we feel such a strong kinship with pique assiette because it is the visual metaphor that best describes us; after all, we spend much of our lives hurling bits of the figurative and literal past into the world’s landfill—and then regret it. We build our identities from that detritus of regret. Every relationship worth keeping sustains, at the very least, splintered glazes, hairline fractures, cracks. And aren’t these flaws the prerequisites of intimacy?” What do you think of this view of identity and relationships?
Wow that quote is a mouthful. What I got from it is that relationships worth keeping will have some cracks in them, that they won't be perfect, and that it is this vey imperfection that makes them so meaningful and interesting. I do agree with this. I wouldn't love my best friend Jamie so much if our lives had never been so bumpy...I think certain kinds of love and understanding comes through lifes accidents and struggles. I think we hurt the people we love the most, and visa versa. Sometimes we get a crack in that relationship, and it's love and the willing to mend the crack that counts and creates the bond between us. Sometimes the severed bond that is mended is the strongest bond of all.
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